Women's Sexualities

   By: Dr Carol Rinkleib Ellison





Generations of Women Share Intimate Secrets of Sexual Self-Acceptance


Questionnaire
I. This Section Is About Factors Affecting
Your Sexual Satisfaction Within A Relationship.



If you have never had satisfying sex with a partner within an ongoing relationship,
please circle 0 and skip to the next section, Section J.

0

 

If you have ever had satisfying sex with a partner within an ongoing relationship, please consider the most recent period in your life when you had satisfying sex in a relationship:


1 a. In this period of my life in this relationship, the following were usually or always present in my most satisfying sexual experiences with my partner (Check all that apply.)

Before Sex

Feeling close to my partner before sex

 

Arguing before having sex

 

Having an alcoholic drink before sex

 

Using marijuana or another recreational drug before (or during) sex

 

 

Partner and Situation

Feeling loved

 

Feeling safe in the relationships

 

Knowing we could take as much time as we wanted

 

Knowing there was no risk of getting or transmitting a disease

 

Knowing there was no risk of getting pregnant 0

 

Being aware that I might become pregnant

 

Knowing my partner would give me the physical stimulation I needed

 

 

Behaviors and Feelings During Sex

Talking with my partner during sex about what we were doing

 

Talking about or acting out a shared drama or fantasy 0000

 

Focusing on a stimulating fantasy of my own 0000

 

Feeling really attuned with my partner during sex 0000

 

No pressure from my partner for me to have an orgasm 000

 

No pressure from myself to have an orgasm

 

Being aware that I might become pregnant

 

My partner was accepting of my desires, preferences and responses 0

 

My partner got and maintained an erection 0

 

My partner did not ejaculate quickly

 

 

Stimulation

Extended stimulation of other kinds before intercourse

 

Breast stimulation

 

Manual stimulation of my genitals

 

Oral stimulation of my genitals 00

 

Using a vibrator

 

Using a dildo 00

 

Anal stimulation

 

Having intercourse

 

Steady, reliable stimulation that continued through orgasm

 


Outcomes

One or more orgasms

 

Simultaneous orgasm with my partner 000

 

Knowing that I gave my partner a wonderful experience

 

Emotional closeness after sexual activity

 

 

Other (please specify)







1b. In the period of my life I have been considering for this question I was in my:

Teens

20s

30s

40s

50s

60s

70s

80s

 

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Copyright 1998, Carol Ellison, Ph.D.